Wednesday, 20 April 2016

Hurrah for the Third Wednesday

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Tonight is my critique group meeting. I have a long list of things to do between now and the time we meet this evening, including reading manuscripts we're reviewing tonight, and, I hope, a little writing.

This group (in its many incarnations) has been part of my writing world for somewhere around two decades. Members have come and gone, usually changing the composition of the group gently. Recently, though, we underwent a bigger change, losing one long-time member (who has left quite a hole) and gaining four new ones in quick succession. The group has been infused with new genres, new ideas and a new vibe, and although we've undergone some growing pains, we're once again hitting our stride.

A good critique group is a must for anyone who's serious about writing; I don't know how any writer can operate without one. I count on my group for:

Critiques. Obvious, I know, but this group has made everything I've submitted to them stronger. Not only do they catch silly errors (like typos and changes that didn't quite make the cut), but they also call me on shortcuts and sloppiness that make a good story "meh." I owe a major plot twist in one of my novels to someone in the group who told me my story had hit a plateau. He was right, and his comment caused me to brainstorm all the ways I could get off that plateau.

Camaraderie. We get a lot accomplished, but we also laugh. For a long time, we had twice-yearly retreats, spending the whole weekend writing. And talking. And eating. I'm hopeful that those will emerge again, but right now, we all seem to be at a place in our personal lives where planning them is difficult.

Support. No one fully understands what a writer does better than another writer. We talk a lot about the industry, what we've heard, what's confusing, where we've submitted, what we're struggling with. And, because sharing our writing means sharing a part of ourselves, that makes the transition to non-writing (a.k.a. "real world") support easy. We look out for each other. And...

Celebrate. Every meeting begins with announcements, where we share our successes. You'd think that writers would be competitive, but we're not competitive with one another. We're genuinely happy for when someone gets published, no matter the format or length. We buy each other's books and attend each other's events.

I can't think of a better way to spend the third Wednesday of each month.

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Sunday, 17 April 2016

Empty Nesting

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My husband and I bought our house when we were newlyweds and my daughter wasn�t even a blip on the family radar. It was a cute house, with good bones, but it needed updating, and so we dug right in. Painting, decorating, planting flowers�the sweat equity projects that are within the budget of first time home buyers�the things that make a house a home.

For the first few years, I took on a new project every summer. Painting was my specialty, but I�ve stripped and replaced plenty of wallpaper and even tried my hand at a few craft projects. When I got pregnant, the nesting that ensued bookended the summer and temporarily increased my domesticity. I even bought a sewing machine and tested out my long-dormant sewing skills, making valences and a comforter for the nursery. 

When my daughter was small, I managed to squeeze my projects into nap time and weekends, but as she got bigger and more mobile, the projects�and my interest in them�tapered off. Later, when I had to choose between writing and home improvement projects, the former won every time. 

This fall, my daughter is heading to college. As I look around our house, the haphazardness of our home improvement projects over the past eighteen years�years spent at playgrounds and concerts and basketball games�is undeniable. The house looks tired and in need of some of the attention we lavished on it when we were young enough to spend a weekend painting without needing a weekend to recover. Lately, I�ve been lying in bed choosing paint colors for the kitchen and wondering how long it takes a 50-something person to paint a room compared to her 30-something self.

If my daughter�s bedroom project is any indication, that time frame is too embarrassing to print. Early in her high school career, we started an overly ambitious painting project in her room; we�ve yet to finish it. Busyness, allergies and waning enthusiasm collided, leaving the big room repainted (except for one wall behind a heavy piece of furniture) and the smaller space untouched. In the smaller room, horses galavant across a wallpaper border affixed to sponge painted walls, creating an ironic contrast to the trappings of teen life that are apparent everywhere else in the space.

As my daughter�s departure from her room and our house draws closer, I find myself torn between the desire to tear down the border and finally paint the walls and the realization that she won�t be in that room long enough�or often enough�to enjoy the results. Mom-guilt pricks at my conscience at the thought of sending her off to college with this years-old project still incomplete, while my practical side says to hold off and paint the room the color I want rather than the rich, dark red she chose�a color I know will be difficult to put up, more difficult to paint over and a constant reminder that the room�s long-time inhabitant no longer lives there.

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And so I marinate in indecision, wondering how much of this has anything to do with painting at all.

I knew it was normal to nest when I was pregnant, but now I find myself wondering if empty nesting is normal, too. With time on our hands and changes ahead, does it make perfect sense to re-envision our home as we re-envision our future? Am I finally stepping up to the plate and making up for years of turning a blind eye toward all that needed to be done? 

Or, am I looking to fill time and keep busy? 

As parents of an only child, we won�t have a step-by-step transition. In August, we�ll go from being parents to being empty nesters. As the time draws closer, I wonder not only how we�ll do that, but how it�s possible that it never occurred to us before that we�d be diving off the cliff of family back into the waters of couplehood. And that those waters are likely to take some getting used to.

So I look at my house and I wonder what comes next. What�s in good shape and what needs to be replaced? What looks tired and what needs refreshing? Do we start with the inside or the outside?

And for the first time since we bought the house, I can�t ignore the metaphor.

Saturday, 16 April 2016

Practice set - 4 (MPPSC PRE)

Q.1 The Ghatigaon sanctuary is managed for
a. Kharmor(lesser floricon)
b. Gharial
c. Son chiria(Indian Bustard)
d. River Dolphin

Q.2  The Ramayan Kala museum is located in
a. Gwalior
b. Dhar
c. Ujjain
d. Orcha

Q.3 When the rabi crops are ready, villagers get together and perform which dance to celebrate their hard work
a. Grida
b. Phulpati
c. Matki
d. Tertali

Q.4 Jawara dance is famous in which region of Madhya Pradesh
a. Malwa
b. Baghelkhand
c. Bundelkhand
d. None of these 
Q.5 Tertali dance is performed by which tribe?
a. Bhagoriya
b. Bhil
c. Korku
d. Kamar

Q.6 Narayan Rao Vyas was a 
a. Classical dancer
b. Musician
c. Cartoonist
d. Cricketer

Q.7 Bundeli Utsav held in which district of Madhya Pradesh?
a. Chhatarpur
b. Datia
c. Shivpuri
d. Panna 

Q.8 Which folk dance is performed on the birth of child, marriages or any other child social get together to celebrate happiness and joy in MP?
a. Rai
b. Ravala
c. Badhaiya
d. Diwari

Q.9 Which one of the following is not the scheduled tribe of MP?
a. Bathodi
b. Bhil
c. Baiga
d. Korku

Q.10 The Nobel laureate Kailash Satyarthi belongs to which place of Madhya Pradesh
a. Gwalior
b. Morena
c. Vidisha
d. Sagar

Answers - 

1. c
2. d
3. a
4. c
5. d
6. b
7. a
8. c
9. a
10. c

Friday, 15 April 2016

Practice set -3 (MPPSC PRE)

Q.1 Bhagoriya is the tribal festival of which district?
a. Bastar
b. Jhabua
c. Mandla
d. Sarguja

Q.2 Government Central institute(Textile) is located in which district of MP?
a. Panna
b. Ujjain
c. Ratlam
d. Gwalior

Q.3 Muktagiri a famous Jain Pilgrimage is in which district of MP?
a. Betul
b. Hoshangabad
c. Sagar
d. Bhopal

Q.4 Madhav National park is situated at 
a. Gwalior
b. Shivpuri
c. Bhind
d. Moorena
Q.5 The energy capital of MP
a. Singrauli
b. Raigarh
c. Korba
d. Shivni

Q.6 According to census 2011, Literacy Rate of MP is 
a. 79.32%
b. 75.5%
c. 69.32%
d. 85.54%

Q.7 Who has written the state song of Madhya Pradesh?
a. Hemraj Roy
b. Srinivas Rath
c. Vibha Matheraj
d. Durga Dutt

Q.8 Which soil has been formed due to weatherig of basaltic lava?
a. Alluvial soil
b. Red soil
c. Black soil
d. Laterite soil

Q.9 Who can legislate on the subjects which are not included in any of the list of subjects given in the constitution?
a. Prime Minister
b. Supreme Court
c. Parliament
d. President

Q.10 Yellow colour of the cow's milk id due to the presence of 
a. Milenine
b. Pyridine
c. Ethylene
d. Carotene

Q.11 Safed Larma and Choti larma are the varieties of 
a. Rice
b. Mustard
c. Wheat
d. Pulse

Answers -
1. a
2. d
3. a
4. b
5. a
6. c
7. b
8. d
9. c
10. d
11. c

Friday Freebie: Steve Jobs

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I bought the daunting (in size) biography of Steve Jobs when it first came out, and started reading it immediately. Then, life intervened and I set it aside, only to pick it up again after making my 2016 New Year's resolution to read more. I'm enjoying it, and especially enjoying "getting to know" the face behind Apple.

So far, only a handful of those I've read about in the book would describe Jobs as "beloved" or even "lovable," when it came to his managerial style, which was more dictatorship than democracy. But even those who disliked him couldn't deny his magnetism, intelligence or creativity, all of which contributed to his knack for coming up with great products.

Carmine Gallo's piece in Forbes summarizes a lot of what made Jobs -- and by extension, Apple -- a force to be reckoned with. Though I'm not sure the "aspiring leaders" Gallo mentions in his title want to copy the whole thing, taking a few pages out of Jobs' book of leadership might not be such a bad idea.

Happy weekend. I hope you get a chance to read in the sunshine.

Practice set - 2 (MPPSC PRE)

Q.1 Famous khajurao temple is situated in which district.
a. Gwalior
b. Bhopal
c. Chattarpur
d. Ujjain

Q.2 Highest peak of Madhya Pradesh
a. Devgarh
b. Dhupgarh
c. Janapav
d. Bagli

Q.3 Famous Gurjari Mahal is situated in which district of Madhya Pradesh?
a. Indore
b. Ujjain
c. Vidisha
d. Gwalior

Q.4 Gurjari mahal and Man mandir built by
a. Biyaji Scindia
b. Yashwant Rao Holkar
c. Raja Man singh tomar
d. Raja Bhoj


Q.5 Who was the first governor of Madhya Pradesh?
a. Dr. B. Pattabhi Sitaramayaa
b. Shri Harivinayak Patkar
c. K.C.reddy
d. Pundit Dwarka Prasad mishra

Q.6 Barhut stupa was excavated by
a. Marshal
b. Smith
c. Dayaram sahani
d. Cunningham

Q.7 The highest peak of  'Dhupgarh' is loacated in which region of Madhya Pradesh?
a. Satpura Maikal ranges
b. Baghelkhand Plateau
c. Bundelkhand Plateau
d. Malwa Plateau

Q.8 Which one of the following pairs of states and tribes is not correctly matched?
a. Assam - Miri
b. Nagaland - Konyak
c. Arunachal Pradesh - Apatani
d. Madhya Pradesh - Lambada

Q.9 Kaziranga is known for
a. Project Tiger
b. Two horned rhino
c. One horned Rhino
d. Operation flood

Q.10 Who is the chairman of 21st Law commission?
a. Justice Ajit Shah
b. Justice Balbir singh chouhan
c. Justice J.S.Verma
d. Justice M.B.Shah

Answers -
1. c
2. b
3. d
4. c
5. a
6. d
7. a
8. b
9. c
10.b

Wednesday, 13 April 2016

Practice set - 1 (MPPSC PRE)

Q.1 Which is 10th division of Madhya pradesh?
a. Chambal
b. Narmadapuram
c. Gwalior
d. Shahdol

Q.2 With which state MP shared the least boundary?
a. Gujarat
b. Maharashtra
c. Uttarpradesh
d. Rajasthan

Q,3 5th edition of IBSAMAR conducted in february at?
a. Delhi
b. Jaipur
c. Goa
d. Vishakhapattanam

Q.4 When is the World book and copyright day?
a. April 22
b. April 23
c. April 24
d. April 25


Q.5 The summers of Madhya Pradesh is called as
a. Siyalsa
b. Yunala
c. Chaumasa
d. None of these

Q.6 Gems and jewelly park is sitauted in
a. Gwalior
b. Bhopal
c. Sidhi
d. Indore

Q.7 Mahakaleswar temple is situated at the bank of which river?
a. Narmada
b. Kshipra
c. Tawa
d. Chambal

Q.8 The only woman chief secretaery of Madhya Pradesh is
a. Nirmala Buch
b. Sucheta kriplani
c. Uma Bharati
d. Maya singh

Q.9 Priyadarshini Indira point is sitauted at
a. Rewa
b. Singrauli
c. Panchmarhi
d. Indore

Q.10 Rewa Kund is famous place built by Baz Bahadur is situated at
a. Rewa
b. Mandu
c. Panchmarhi
d. Sidhi

Answers - 

1. d
2. a
3. c
4. b
5. b
6. d
7. b
8. a
9. c
10. b